Happy Otter: Life Stress in the Elderly

Compared to the middle-aged, what pressure does the elderly have? In order to avoid ambiguity, the definition of the elderly in this article is the elderly after retirement.

Some people may be even more confused, after the retirement of the elderly that is not even less pressure? I can do whatever I want. Isn't that what I've always wanted?

Or is it? Retired people can do whatever they want? Some old people are really like this, healthy and open-minded.

Like to travel to the motherland's great rivers and mountains walk a walk; If you want to go abroad, go to the University of the elderly to learn English, then travel abroad; Do not love to walk on the gathering of the old partners together at the door to play mahjong, a square dance, when really free unruly, free and uninhibited. It's a lot of envy.

1.The pressure of taking care of the next generation

But this is only a small number of old people, most of the old people after retirement life is to take care of the family. Most of the elderly will help their children to take care of their children, in order to solve their children's work pressure. When school is over, I go to the gate of kindergarten and elementary school to see if there are grandparents picking up their grandchildren. This pressure to raise the next generation is transferred to the older generation.

2.The pressure of health

Some old people have been doing manual work all their lives, but when they get older and their physical functions decline, these injuries come to them. The most common are rheumatitis, bone spurs, lumbar braces and so on. Can only recuperate at home, if in the buy of health care products, it is particularly easy to be fooled. It is easy to put the life savings to buy all kinds of health care products, which is the pressure of health.

The stress of facing death

Another health stress is the fear of death. As we get older, the face of death becomes more and more clear. From birth to death, the process is farther and farther away from the angel, and closer and closer to the process of death. Angels bring you to earth, and death takes you from earth. When it comes to you one step at a time, we fear. Because we don't know where it's going to take us, and that's our fear of the unknown.

And the older we get, the more our parts of the body begin to weaken. First, physical decline, can not walk; Then the eyesight is decreased, can not see clearly; And then there's hearing loss. I don't know. Take away our ability to connect with the outside world, and we'll feel more alone and helpless than ever before. So make the elderly pay more attention to their own health, their health depends on the efficacy of health care products. This is even more counterproductive.

3.Economic pressure

There's also the financial pressure, some people say what's the financial pressure on older people with retirement wages, older people tend to have a lot of money. What I'm trying to say is that they can live perfectly well if they live for themselves. But our parents are like that, they always live for their children. Their children can't afford to buy a house in big cities, so they use their parents' pension money to pay the down payment. After buying a house, they find it difficult to pay the monthly mortgage and raise their children. They also need to help their children pay the mortgage and take care of their children.

How much will that leave? Therefore, some elderly people also take their own pension to invest, to do financial management. But we know that investment is risky, we need to be careful in the market, not careful to lose all the capital. Most of them ask for money every day without telling their children. This is called economic pressure.

There is another kind of old people. They are very smart. When they were young, they were civil servants or employees in big companies. A lifetime of salary, hard work, no experience as an investor, as a shareholder happiness. With a mind to do big things, want to experience the beauty of making money. They use their life savings as raw material to stock, to invest. Still the same sentence investment risk, enter the market need to be cautious, if not careful and accompany a wiped out.

All of the above, no matter which link of the problem will bring another kind of pressure to the elderly, called relationship pressure.

4.Relationship stress between the elderly and their children.

Relationship stress from caring for the next generation

We start from the beginning, helping children take care of the next generation, which is a pressure in itself. If it is not well taken care of, it can translate into stress in relationships with children. Don't say children naughty, always make you angry. Say the problem of education, the old generation of education and the young generation of education is in conflict, you don't care to say that you spoil children, you are too strict, whose children do not love dearly? The reverse is also the same, parents strict discipline children, children come to you crying you can not love dearly? As long as you feel bad, then good, the child is very smart. I won't tell you the rest of the story...

Relationship stress due to health

If you're not healthy and need someone to take care of you, that's a stress in itself. If you have more than one child, there is a pressure to choose who will take care of them, and to divide up assets later. Some say most are only children. Well, there's no choice. Just one child. He'll take care of you, of course.

Then the problem is, your children have to take care of you, take care of the children, and work. Even being taken care of, will you not be stressed? This is a kind of pressure, helpless and distressed pressure. So the elderly really need to pay attention to their health.

Relationship stress due to economic investment

When the elderly are caught buying health care products without their children s knowledge or investing in stocks without their children s knowledge, what will happen? Do not think about buying health care products, is it normal to be cheated, I heard a friend said: an old man to buy health care products, but dare not put them at home for fear of children found. The salesman helped him rent a warehouse, specializing in health care products. I was stunned when I heard it.

What if it's a stock market flop? It is the same, I have seen children take the old man to ask for money, while asking for money while criticizing the old man. Here I just want to say that we do not want this situation to happen. If it does happen, I hope my children can give the old people understanding and tolerance. Not to say that the old man's own heart must be not good, to say the least, with their own savings investment failure, there is nothing wrong.

Looking at the above, can you still say that old people are relaxed and stress-free? How to relieve the stress of the elderly? How about getting older people to live the other way of life that we talked about at the beginning?

5.The solution

(1) Take care of your health

No matter what time, health is their own. Only when you are healthy can you reduce the stress for your children and therefore for yourself.

(2) Reduce your greed

Don't feel like there is a shortcut to everything. People who are cheated are those who want to take a shortcut. I buy health care products because I want to get healthy without putting in the effort and take the shortcut to health. The stock market is not want to pay hard to make money, take the economic shortcut. So know how to control their greed, will not easily fall into the trap of others.

(3) Adjust your thinking

A lifetime of good weather, flat light is true. Don't always think about doing great things and making a lot of money. Especially the elderly, unwilling to live so plain life, always want to do a big thing, vigorous thing. Once again, it failed.

(4) The old have fun

Old people are most afraid of retirement after nothing to do, of course, don't always think about doing great things. Have your own hobbies, your own interests. Keep your eyes outside, not at home. Do something you like with your old friends. The old people should have their own circle of life. They should get busy every day and make their life full.

To sum up: the elderly also have pressure, as long as we are people, living in social relations will have pressure, which is impossible to escape. It's the way we look at stress that matters, the way we look at it, so you don't fall into another trap by avoiding it. Don't always want to take shortcuts, shortcuts are often full of pitfalls.

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